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Hi. After talking to my therapist and doing some digging, this is called, “emotional incest.” Dads think of their daughters’ emotional and physical relationships through the lense of how they’ve objectified women their whole lives. So in an attempt to “protect” their daughters, https://twitter.com/FeministEmiIy/status/1217589398755110912
they objectify them too.
“Protection “ is the way that dads control their daughters intimacy with any other person. And guilt her being pretty or funny or that boys (and girls) find her attractive. It creates a pattern of self-loathing
“Protection “ is the way that dads control their daughters intimacy with any other person. And guilt her being pretty or funny or that boys (and girls) find her attractive. It creates a pattern of self-loathing
and an insanely strong fawn response to the father specifically.
Needing his “approval” for any little thing. And as soon as she wakes up and realises something is off, she’s gaslit. Until she is eventually ostracised.
Needing his “approval” for any little thing. And as soon as she wakes up and realises something is off, she’s gaslit. Until she is eventually ostracised.
This can be seen in the behaviours of: having their daughters model their new scgio clothes to make sure they’re appropriate.
Evangelical moms telling their sons that holy spiritual will surely tell her if they masturbate.
Evangelical moms telling their sons that holy spiritual will surely tell her if they masturbate.
Unwanted attention like long hugs, sitting on laps, or buttsmacking.
Scaring bfs or gfs with threats of, “whatever you do to her, I’ll do to you.”
Scaring bfs or gfs with threats of, “whatever you do to her, I’ll do to you.”
And more often than not, there *is* physical and sexual abuse that the child is too disillusioned to understand.
Pay attention to how kids act around adults. Thank you for coming to my ted talk
Pay attention to how kids act around adults. Thank you for coming to my ted talk
It’s kinda funny that this threat resurfaced because I was going to try to find it. The more I allow myself to think about my childhood, the more i realise that he didn’t even hide
Anytime I answered a question “yes.” He would say, “yes what?” And I had to reply “yes, daddy.”
Anytime I answered a question “yes.” He would say, “yes what?” And I had to reply “yes, daddy.”
And now I’m incredibly mad that no one in our life ever asked me if me and my sister were safe at home...
Guess I’m not done here. But how incredibly fucking calloused.
The notion that I need to tell him “how I feel” is I sure. He abused me. That’s not how I feel. Those are facts. This isn’t “I hate my dad, wah.” This is “I was abused. Here are the signs to look out for.”
The notion that I need to tell him “how I feel” is I sure. He abused me. That’s not how I feel. Those are facts. This isn’t “I hate my dad, wah.” This is “I was abused. Here are the signs to look out for.”
Hi.
1) as you can see by all the fucking comments and retweets this is a common ass thing that happens
2) I’m not just talking about my dad. I’m talking about the anthropological fact that men sexualise their daughters by controlling their love lives and sexual expression.
1) as you can see by all the fucking comments and retweets this is a common ass thing that happens
2) I’m not just talking about my dad. I’m talking about the anthropological fact that men sexualise their daughters by controlling their love lives and sexual expression.
