Valentine’s Day is coming dears.
Let’s talk gifts.

If this thread is dragging women; I’m not sorry dears.

The intention is sha to shed light on a few things when it comes to relationships and gifting.

Now men talk about how women give them things they (women) like.
Not things they want.

I don’t argue with this thing because women actually do it.
So how do you find out what to give your partner, potential love interest, platonic friend sef.

ASK, THEN PAY ATTENTION.

Men aren’t as complicated as us.
A lot of them don’t even ask.

Pay attention in conversations.
Do you like cake?
What’s your favorite soup?
What’s your favorite color?
Pay attention to what he typically wears.

Suits or kaftan?
Thoughtful gifts always always go a long way.

A lot of you DON’T PAY ATTENTION.
You’re so focused on owning people that u forget to experience them.

Pay attention to what they do, what do they need to make work easier sef.
Men sometimes even send you stuff, ah this is so nice.
Take initiative, find out how much the thing is

If you cannot afford it at that time. Make plans to save for it.
Then look for less expensive things.

PAY ATTENTION.
Learn people, be intentional.

This person likes game?
Save and buy him a new game, or two for his console. Read reviews on games & ask what he likes playing

You won’t die if you buy him game.
Find out if he likes food, what restaurant hasn’t he been to.
Go and find out what the cost of that restaurant is like, save, TAKE HIM THERE AND PAY.

You won’t perish.

Does he like reading?
What types of books? Who are his favorite authors?

What book hasn’t he read from this favorite author?
Is there a particular book he’s been looking for?

Has he talked about beefing up his Cv?
Have you discussed taking courses? What Courses does he need to take?
Google, save, pay for the course.
Send him log in.

Intentionality intentionality intentionality!
Repeat it till you grasp it.

I was dating someone one time, I had a lot of school work and I knew around valentine I’ll be broke.
I started saving IN DECEMBER.

Then in January I bought pork ribs, shrimps etc and put inside freezer.

Valentine’s Day gift was a full three course meal in my room.

Chocolates & his favorite cider.

Mans was so happy. Almost broke a tear. You’d think I gave him a million dollars.
INTENTIONALITY!

I’ll ask you people dating man if he likes books “I don’t really know”
Excuse me?

Stop this nonsense.
It’s not funny, it’s your selfishness that is showing.

It’s showing and it’s smelling darling.
This life is not about you alone.

Someone sent me something he wanted, I said wait dear this month has a million days in my account. Present your case next month

I’ve made a mental note. Now I’ll be intentional about getting it next month.

He might not bring it up again sef. Yet one day package will land.

Love is not selfish. Stop it.

What’s singlet and socks?
If you’re with someone you think that’s only what their worth, then leave.

If you cannot afford to gift and buy expensive things. That’s different.
But I guarantee you that a gift doesn’t need to be expensive and you don’t need to be wealthy.

Now dear men if your babe likes flowers, find out how much flowers are, save if you need to AND BUY IT.

It’s not your business wether it makes sense.
She likes it, it’s not causing harm to her abi?
It’ll make her happy

FINISH.
You too listen!

I like nude pumps.

Babe please which one is that? Let me see picture abeg.
Save the picture, search for different vendors.
BE INTENTIONAL

You don’t need to be rich to love someone’s child.

But being nonchalant and passive aggressive, no amount of money will cover this one.

You people will date intentionally this year. So help me God.

You will love the way that you need to.
There’s 100 questions book, buy it.

Distance isn’t an excuse anymore.
There are vendors in every city online.

Google, Instagram hashtags.

You have no excuse.

I’ll have another ebook later this year for actually existing in the relationship when the 100 questions leads to something serious and committed.

But you see this; I wrote him a 100 Love notes & printed it on a Tshirt.

IS NONSENSE IF THE PERSON DOESN’T MOVE LIKE THAT.
THAT’S A GIFT FOR YOU, NOT THEM.

I BOUGHT HIM SHOE.
WHAT IF HE’S A SANDAL PERSON?

I GAVE HER GUCCI BAG.
WHAT IF SHE’S A SNEAKER PERSON?

Learn people, experience them, pay attention.
THEN GIFT FROM THAT.

The other day it was even a phone case for my brother.

Gifting is not as hard as you want to make it seem.

A lot of times it’s your selfishness that is smelling. DO BETTER.

Singlet and socks no be am.

Last example.
@_Tochidike is not a flowers person. If I gifted her flowers it’ll be because I LIKE FLOWERS.

I know she likes clothes, shoes, food, money sef.

If I was giving Tochi something I will not give her flowers because she’ll not like it.

STOP BEING SELFISH.

Ok bye.

I can give a trillion examples.

Susan will appreciate flowers, Tochi will not.
Ruth will appreciate makeup as a gift, Susan will not.

My brother will ask me what he’s doing with a yearly supply of broccoli, I will almost faint from excitement if it was me.

LEARN PEOPLE.