There’s a person for every kind of life you want.
You want 8 children? There’s someone for it.

You want to live in the middle of nowhere?

You want to cheat and come back home unquestioned?
There’s a partner as well.

Just stop forcing other people who aren’t it to conform.

You have to learn that in the real sense love isn’t critical.
If you’re going to take someone that doesn’t want a certain kind of life and expect that they must want because you want.

Then make them make decisions out of fear of losing you.

That’s actually not compromise.

It’s you getting what you want. At the end of the day the only person sacrificing is them.
This is not love.

If you love someone and they don’t want the life you want, you either find a middle ground with what they want or you leave them alone.
But stop destroying good people.

Stop making people hate their differing opinions and wants because those wants weren’t enough to keep you.

What is love if the person you love cannot recognize themselves after they keep choosing you?

The beauty of love is being able to accept how different you both are.

It is not forcing someone to conform to what you think your idea of a life is because you want to keep them.

In this case it’s not them you love, it’s the idea of them.

Take it from someone who has been loved as an idea & not an individual.
There is no happiness in this thing.

The second your individuality cracks through it becomes a case of

“I hope I’m not too far away from their ideal idea of a partner”.

Meanwhile love is accepting we’re different, very unique and either finding the middle ground or letting go so I don’t become critical of you.

Find the people that are looking for the exact life you want and share that life.

But stop forcing other people to give up alot of what makes them, them so they can become a replica of your thoughts just so they can keep you.

This is not love and I hope you see it.