So apparently soulmates don’t exist in Islam. There’s no one person “destined” for you. If anything its a narrowed down group of people based on your paths in life and you just choose the most suitable one out of the latter at that given time point.

Thank you and Goodnight.

Okay I don’t know why everybody is pressed but let me clarify this further because apparently many of you don’t know the difference between qadar/kismet/naseeb and a CHOICE.

Boy, this is going to be one hell of a thread:

First of all, Qadar is not singular. It is not this 1 thing that is always destined, written and unchangeable. Qadar actually is divided into different types. For example, there’s a form of Qadar that is permanent and cannot be unwritten. This we are familiar with.

It is predestined before the existence of humanity and this includes things like solar system occurrences, which star dies or even simpler, your birth date.

You don’t choose your birth date, your family or even your name. That was destined for you from before you even existed.

There’s also a form of Qadar that can be changed through things like Duaa which is why Duaa is very powerful. Duaa can literally stop afflictions, alleviate trials or change things completely. Some matters are destined to happen to you, some are choices and some are a bit of both

Lets define what is meant by “Written” because many think of it superficially. Something is “written” not because Allah ordained everything happen to you by force but because Allah KNOWS it is going to happen to you. Perspective shifts tremendously when you think of it this way.

Understand that past/present/future in our mere human perception doesn’t exist with God. If anything, it’s all happening at the same time or has already happened. It’s like watching a movie for the second time, you know whats going to happen because you watched it the 1st time.

Allah KNOWS whats going to happen ALREADY and THAT is why it is written. This principle is the reason why heaven/hell exists in the first place. It would make absolutely no sense for God to give you free will and choices if it’s “written” that you’ll end up in hell/heaven already

It would be unfair and defy core relgious principles. The fundamentals of religion would be useless if the choices were made for you. Imagine failing an exam because the teacher answered it for you? It would be unjust and wrong and Allah wouldn’t let that happen.

This is why whether you end up in heaven or hell is down to YOU. Allah has sent you the book, the directions, the warnings, the instructions, the manuals and the guidance. It is up to you to base all your choices on them.

How you react to trials, tribulations and afflictions is also according to those rules. All the tests of patience and everything else follow these too. The final choice of your spouse is also yours. Nobody will make that choice for you.

Allah might direct certain people in your life that you can then choose from or He might redirect you away from people you shouldn’t be choosing from. He can reveal this to you in the form of signs and it is up to you to read them and decide whether this person is suitable or not

You DO get rewarded for choosing the righteous spouse. By that I mean according to the principles on how God wanted you to choose. But if you go against His teachings and choose someone out of lust or improper reasons then what follows are the consequences of your OWN actions.

Trials and afflictions might still be present in BOTH cases. Everyone faces these whether they have a good or bad spouse. You might get a divorce, you might have a spouse that turns bitter...etc...you never know. The upside is, you’ll sail smoothly with a righteous spouse.

This is why you MUST do your best when choosing out of free will. It also emphasises how important YOUR own choice is.

So to conclude, at the end of your path; theres a bag of marbles. It has 10 marbles. You can choose any colour you want from those 10 but God tells you not to choose the green, blue or yellow marbles. WHAT colour you choose is up to you and be ready to bear the consequences.

This is a very deep and complex side to religion. I’ve only just scraped the surface with this explanation yet there are still things that are unknown and happen because Gods infinite wisdom and knowledge covers all. This is where trust and faith come into play.

It’s why the sixth pillar of Iman is the solid faith in Qadar whether its good or bad. Some things are simply unknown and might not make sense to our limited minds, they are greater than us all. However, it is up to us to seek knowledge on the things that are known/revealed to us

So do soulmates exist? Not in the westernised sense, no. And this is why the responsibility of choosing a spouse is on you. So when you’re getting to know someone try your best to make sure they satisfy Allahs rulings before they satisfy yours.

The problem is we’re very complacent. We throw qadar/naseeb/kismet at ANYTHING that displeases us and sit there satisfied with the rest of our situation while we drown in our own dilemma. We want to rid ourselves of the guilt and responsibility associated with our OWN choices.

I hope this encourages you to make proper choices + seek knowledge on what exactly is right. You’re all equipped with the tools to do so, make the most out of it. This required a lot of research and I would love to cite my sources but they’re too many and its just impractical.

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