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Oh yes look at how funny it is to make fun of microidentities that help people explain themselves and are meant to make them feel accepted and not feel confused or broken or anything worse just because I don’t understand them haha amirite buddies? https://twitter.com/zkilIua/status/1204037069712109568">https://twitter.com/zkilIua/s...
Oh yes look at how funny it is to make fun of microidentities that help people explain themselves and are meant to make them feel accepted and not feel confused or broken or anything worse just because I don’t understand them haha amirite buddies? https://twitter.com/zkilIua/status/1204037069712109568">https://twitter.com/zkilIua/s...
I am a bi-oriented, aromantic and asexual person. I don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction. But these aren’t the only types of attraction that exist. For example we have alterous (queer/quasiplatonic), platonic, aesthetic and sensual attraction.
Every person has an orientation to each of these types. Some of them use the SAM, some don’t. And it’s okay! For example a gay person is homosexual and homoromantic, but they might not choose to use the homoromantic label because “gay” already explains both.
Just because most people don’t have a variation of orientation for their labels it doesn’t mean everyone is the same!! Aspec ppl understand it the most because while most ppl are allosexual and alloromantic, we aren’t, and other types of attraction become more relevant to us.
So for us it is relevant to have a label that explains ourselves! It feels nice to have a term that explains how I feel, specially when other ppl around me don’t feel what I do, and say I’m “just making up words to explain what everyone already feels” because for us is different!
Most ppl don’t even label their romantic orientations because society puts sex as “required” in a relationship, and says it means “a bigger step in the relationship”. But romantic attraction is equally important!
This shows how amatonormative society is, denying the idea of a relationship that consists JUST of romantic + sexual attraction. This is arophobic and acephobic. It is erasure.
There are other kinds of relationships!!! There are long-distance, polyamory, with and without sex/romance, queer/quasi platonic...
Also! Allo relationships aren’t “better” than aspec relationships. Queerplatonic ones aren’t “just fancy friendships”. There isn’t a hierarchy. They are all equally important.
This being said, labels for other types of attraction are perfectly fine and should be used!!
For me it’s more of a complement than anything. It helps me understand myself better.
For me it’s more of a complement than anything. It helps me understand myself better.
Aromantic, for example, is one of my labels. But it doesn’t mean I don’t feel love, because there isn’t just romantic love.
I use the label bi-oriented because it explains for me my platonic, alterous, sensual and aesthetic attraction. I also use demisensual.
I use the label bi-oriented because it explains for me my platonic, alterous, sensual and aesthetic attraction. I also use demisensual.
That tumblr post is wrong because even if the language used isn’t widely known, you shouldn’t make fun of people because of the way they identify. This being reproduced within the lgbt+ community makes me sad because we, more than anyone, know how that feels.
Lgbt+ ppl know how it hurts to be made fun of / be denied things because of your identity. Mostly because the ones who did that didn’t know or didn’t accept their orientations. You can’t do the same thing to other people in the same community you are.
The comments are full of aphobia because ppl are ignorant of that matter. And instead of accepting that other people might use those labels for a reason, they choose to make fun of them because they don’t understand.
This is an example of how marginalized ace and aro ppl are within the community, and how other ppl don’t take us seriously and don’t respect us.
To the 5 ppl who liked this and put this on my timeline: you’re on THIN FUCKING ICE BUDDY. THIN. FUCKING. ICE.
