My most favorite (!) hot take by men about women is "you know what the problem with you women is? The fact that you don't delegate and you are controlling. If you just told us what was to be done, we would do it"

Now where do we start debunking this? Delegation by definition means that someone who knows how to run the household tells someone who has no idea how to run it, what to do and they do it. That itself is a problem given that ideally all adults living in a house should run it

EVEN if we ignore that and let's say women start delegating, delegating means that I tell you what to do and then the next time I see your face is when you have done the task and are reporting to me that it's done

If you come about 200 times in the middle to ask me how to do it, where to find things, why things are being done a certain way then honestly I might as well just do it myself because I will do it better, faster without spending too much mental energy

The next thing men say is "Well then just train us no? Tell us and show us how to do it once and then we will do it perfectly and not come to you". There are so many problems with this

1) There are 200 things in a household from as mundane as picking the right vegetable in a grocery store to where to keep the children's full pants and shorts to running the washing machine and paying the bills. I can't possibly train you to do all these things

2) Also, NO ONE TRAINED ME. AND NO ONE IS PAYING ME TO TRAIN YOU. It is emotional physical mental labour that I didn't sign up for and I am not getting paid to do. As a functioning adult I expect you to learn just like I did

If I have to tell you where the jeera is, where the washing powder is, which cooking oil to use, what is the dishwasher setting, where to keep the children's folded clothes, which cream to use for kids THEN I MIGHT AS WELL FUCKING DO IT

Then men are like "arey but I am willing to reform now and you won't even give me a chance. I agree I was useless all these years but now ONCE you tell me and I will be a champ"

Congratulations on coming to this realisation but Sorry. No. In this day and age of google and technology I am not going to tell you how to run the washing machine, how to cook a dish. If you want to know if a particular spoon can be used in a pan google it

Being a partner means sharing equal responsibility which means physical, mental and emotional labour should be split. No one teaches you how to be an adult. You make mistakes you learn you grow. It is no one's responsibility to teach you and train you to be a full human being

Especially not your partner's. Your mother by virtue of the fact that she birthed you may teach you to do things (poor woman) but to expect things of your partner that you would expect of your mother is WRONG

If I come back after a "day out" and see unwashed vessels in the sink, a dirty house, unfolded laundry, an abominable kitchen counter and kids with running noses I will NEVER leave the house and trust you again

Men, reflect on the things you say and the things you expect your partner to do for you to "make" you better and do those things yourself and learn to be a good partner ON YOUR OWN WITHOUT HELP.

Also till you become one stop giving us hot takes on what the problem with women is and what we should do about it. Actually even AFTER you become a full human being and a good partner shutting up is best strategy #kbye