Marry someone you are utterly in love with. And find something about them that mesmerizes you.

Looks will not last forever, find someone whose purpose and everyday ambition you connect with on a deep and spiritual level.

Find someone that will always be home.

Find someone that you can say no to everyone else for, find your person, the person that matters when it all quiets down in your heart and all of the dust this world brings with it.

When you do, love without holding any of it back, love senselessly, the restraint has a burden

and when the days come when you throw things at each other, remind yourself of those things, the things you said you would love them for.

Because it would get crazy, they'd be childish, you will be stupid, but when you put love in the center, none else counts, absolutely nothing

Remind yourself of all the things you said would make you both hold hands, cherish those things and let them be a reminder why you decided to do this in the first place.

When you swing hands on long self imposed walks and chat endlessly with smiles that go ear to ear,...

Remind yourself that this moment is the one you live for, when their hearts are in tune with yours. And when you get a chance, listen to their heartbeat in their sleep or in intimate moments, don't you just love how mortal and fickle their existence is? Yes? Cherish that!

Cherish the shared existence, that this lifetime friendship makes the world around you more meaningful, that in them you have found good things and a beautiful union with God at its middle.

They will be flawed, their handwritings will be unbearable, their hair will be scruffy...

They will have weird poses with their hands when they take pictures, they will love things that you don't. They will make you do things that you find weird, but do it anyways.

But you know what? their smiles will make you smile, it would bring back an endless rush of good times

Their laughter will echo in your head, you'd remember every hug, you'd remember how they danced off to the beat, youd remember that little things that made them insecure, and you'd guard all of it like a treasure, because you are that safe place.

when you make a promise, mean it

When you tilt the scales because you didnt know any better, fix it, ole yourself up to the scrutiny of children, you once were with them, you will always be, keep the ego at home.

And when you stay up at night looking for the best rings, ask the butterflies in your tummy...

If you are making the best choice, don't listen to their answer, listen to yours. And when that day comes that you trick her into accepting a ring and doing life with you forever, remember why you do it, if it matters write it down and make sure it makes sense in a few years.

And when you walk down the aisle, make sure the knot in your tummy is the good kind, the kind that makes you say your vows without stuttering.

When you kiss and call them "Nkem" remember to conduct yourself in a manner that ownership demands, you owe yourself that.

Love like it were new every morning, ravish all that they are and soak yourself in the moment, and in the reality of it.

Refresh yourself, remind yourself why you do this and take breaks to take stock, don't run on old oils, they get dark and messy.

Love them like fresh udala.

To every one who loves and is being loved.

Have a great Sunday.