While it’s on my mind since I’m getting a lot of dms about financial abuse: I just wanna let you know that if you are an ADULT with another ADULT and you live together and are in a relationship then there’s NO reason why you shouldn’t have access to your own money

It’s very easy to live with guilt as a stay at home mom and assume that since you aren’t “working” that you aren’t entitled to having access to money. Been there done that I know the feeling. Here to tell you that if your partner doesn’t think you work that is a giant red flag

If you aren’t allowed access to funds with your partner that is not normal. If you have to ask permission to have money but they don’t ask yours that is not normal. If they want you to quit your job but don’t want to treat you like an equal that is not normal.

If you are in this situation there are plenty of resources of lawyers who are willing to help you. If they are in the military (because this is very common in the military) there are tons of resources for that as well. Shoot me a dm and I will do my best to help.

If you are someone who hasn’t dealt with this please heed my warning and get your own. It’s imperative as a woman to have your own. When they leave you they leave you with nothing. Don’t ever depend on a man for shit if you aren’t willing to lose it. Please don’t fall victim

And side note: there’s plenty of women who have amazing partners who don’t financially abuse stay at home moms. But you should have access. You should be involved. That’s the difference. This is in no way bashing women who stay home. It’s just a warning. If it feels wrong it is