I have been holding to this one for too long but I feel I& #39;m ready to talk about it. Let& #39;s talk about US those who have NOT so ROSY RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR MOTHERS. Us who have experienced toxic relationships with our Mothers, biological mother incase you want to be sure.
I remember when I went through the rockiest time, it was because I would constantly fight with my mum. Yes the one who was supposed to love me at all times forever etc. But it got terrible! From the emotional abuse to physical.
Oh yes when you& #39;re an adult that& #39;s not allowed, yes it& #39;s abuse. And having to leave your home where you get all that you need because you forgot what peace of mind looks like and because no one will help you because & #39;that& #39;s your mother& #39; you should understand her, well it hurts!
What I can tell you is, don& #39;t die in your silence and hurt. Move away from what is hurting you even if it& #39;s your mother. They are human beings and they can hurt you. Before anyone else, love yourself. You can decide to work on the relationship or not. You decide, but LEAVE.
And you, when someone confides in you about that relationship and they are hurting. Don& #39;t tell them that mothers don& #39;t do that. Well there are some who do. And if you have nothing to tell them just listen and direct them to someone who can.
So many people are struggling with bad mother- daughter relationships and can& #39;t speak because society said it& #39;s a taboo and you& #39;ll be cursed. Well I& #39;m sorry society you know it happens and you make people walk with heavy hearts and hurting.
Currently, my relationship with my mum is good and it was very tough to get it back but it took time. For my healing and forgiveness and working on our relationship because I believe in family. However, the distance helped
Oh, btw you& #39;ll be told about the Bible and how you should honor your parents. Trust, that one will be thrown at you. But know that, Apo to chini Ephesians wameambiwa parents do not make your children angry. What helped me was having a rational group of spiritual guardians.
Have those who understand what the Bible says about parent child relationship. They will walk with you and help you where you are stuck. I thank God or my church because they played a major role. If you are going through this just know you are not alone and it will pass.
Love yourself first. Everything else will fall in place when you are at peace.
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Like I& #39;ve said. Many are struggling in silence.
Be kind and if you can& #39;t say anything positive don& #39;t at all.
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https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="π" title="Smiling face with heart-shaped eyes" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with heart-shaped eyes"> Sending love.
Be kind and if you can& #39;t say anything positive don& #39;t at all.
This is actually a guy.
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Nothing sucks like getting anxious because you& #39;re going home. And then people asking you why you aren& #39;t going home. People are different and how people handle issues is different.
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It all works out eventually. And if it doesn& #39;t that& #39;s fine too. Above all else guard your heart, from it all things flow. I& #39;m at a good place right now with my mum. We are back to hanging out and very respectful with each other& #39;s boundaries.
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Aayy the Dms. My heart goes out to all of you. We are aging and we are carrying a lot of hurt and pain. Let& #39;s work on forgiveness, to them and ourselves.
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If you are a dad. Be a good one too.
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I can& #39;t post all the Dms I& #39;ve received. But all I can say is I& #39;m amazed at how many people both men and women are struggling in silence and are hurting and can& #39;t talk. Let& #39;s be kind. Let& #39;s be nice. You don& #39;t know what people are going through.
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