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Been talking about domestic abuse experiences with a peep who is faced with supporting their sibling who has been assaulted.
My cousin I lived with was very violently assaulted a few years ago and I was there for the fall out of the trauma.
The main thing I felt the need to warn my friend of is that victims of domestic abuse might go back to the abuser.
It's actually pretty simple. Before the Event they were with the person and things were Good. After the Event they were apart and things were Bad.
Even tho the instagator of the assault obviously caused the Badtime they want to regain the Goodtime.
So they might go back to that person. Its just a thing.
What you need to understand as a support person is that if you reject them when they do this, you may very likely get completely cut out.
Me, my cousin, and her very close friend, lived together. Her friend refused to accept her association with the abuser after the fact. She shut him out of her life.
I stayed. I was supportive but not not approving. I treated her like the adult she was. I was still there when she took the step to remove the abuser permanently.
Not everyone can be there like this. I have trauma from this shit. But I chose to be there and she Had Someone to back her up when she finally separated herself.
I don't know if she would have been able to do that without that support.
