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Red flags you must recognise in a relationship or potential partner:
Based on my personal experiences with toxic men. This applies to both men and women by the way. Retweet to save a life or your own ass.
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Based on my personal experiences with toxic men. This applies to both men and women by the way. Retweet to save a life or your own ass.
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Gaslighting- When a person makes you question your own sanity and morals. Eg: You call him out for doing something wrong and he manipulates you into thinking you’re the crazy one for calling him out in the first place. He makes you think you’re the problem, not him.
Puts you down- He tells you things that break your confidence and self esteem. He tells you you can’t accomplish something. He makes you feel useless.
Makes fun of/ degrades you- He calls you insulting nicknames. He uses derogatory terms on you.
He tells you he’s joking- He makes fun of the way you are or the way you look (or both) and then tells you you can’t take a joke when you show him that you’re not okay with it. You gotta accept his ‘jokes’ but He gets agitated when you do the same to him.
He controls you- They clothes you wear, the activities you enjoy doing, you MUST tell him where you go, who you’re going with and if he doesn’t like it, you mustn’t do it. If you don’t respond to his texts or calls immediately, you’re in big trouble.
He is disrespectful towards your friends/ family - He complains about your friends. He tries to convince you that they all have bad intentions towards you and makes you cut them out of your life so that you won’t have anyone to confide to and he can take complete control over you
He isn’t supportive- He isn’t supportive of your dreams, hobbies and the things your love but if you don’t show him support towards his, you’re a bad partner.
He tried to separate you from family- He tries to convince you that your family doesn’t love you especially when your family shows distaste towards him and his attitude.
He embarrasses you in public- He has no problem insulting you or shouting at you in public if you say or do something he does not like.
He dismisses you- He does not take anything you say seriously. In other words, “You don’t know anything about life.”, “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”, “Stop talking rubbish.”, etc.
He treats you like a maid/slave - You must iron his shirt, prep his protein shake, cook, clean his underwear, basically babysit him. And if you don’t do these for him, you’re a bad partner or worse, he’ll rage at you.
He takes your money- It isn’t wrong to spend for your partner every now and then. But if you have to spend on him every single time, there’s a problem. You have to pay for his food, petrol, phone bills, etc while you end up with no money for yourself.
He breaks things- He damages objects when he is upset with you to scare you and assert dominance. He is trying to reflect his urge to beat you up by damaging things around him.
He hits you- Simple policy, you won’t damage something you love. If he hits you, he doesn’t love you. His mouth tells you he loves you but everything else doesn’t. Fucking leave already wtf you doing telling me you still love him?!
He flirts with other women- He’s in a relationship with you but he’s flirting with other women. Take a hint, love. You ain’t that special to him.
He cheats on you- Do I really have to elaborate further?
He is disrespectful to people- If he is disrespectful to his mother, workers, friends, etc, he’s going to treat you the same eventually.
He forces sex on you- You must give him sex whenever he wants it and of you don’t, he gets angry and throws a fit.
Ok I can’t think of anymore. These are all of what I’ve dealt with men throughout my life. If you have more points, do add em to this thread. There is no safe space for a narcissist anymore. I will fucking end y’all.
