I tend to feel uncomfortable making posts like this but I really feel like the reason transmasc people tend to be “invisible” is for the same reason neurodivergent afab children are often undiagnosed which is that “girls” who are “doing it bad” or “having a rough time” (cont)

are often seen as just not important or necessary to pay attention to. afab folks who are also doing something like going on T are also seen as doing something extremely unsexy, and a “girl” who isn’t sexy or nice is just useless to everyone and not worth paying attention to

I think it also has to do with the fact that after trans men transition straight men (who control our media) will not ever be interacting with them sexually again, and will probably never know or care if they’re talking to a trans dude

men are also allowed far more privacy than women when it comes to their bodies as well so there’s more lenience for them to not look “perfect” as men. And before transition, being seen as a woman, what you declare about yourself doesn’t matter to anyone

Like I def know straight guys who say they would date a pre t trans guy, meaning that they literally do not care about the person they choose to have sex with as long as they have the parts they want bc how “women” feel about themselves doesn’t matter

Cis men like this also tend to just put their own identity onto the person they want to bone because they feel their opinion of them is more accurate than their own ability to declare their own identity

I know that this doesn’t cover every nuance to the conversation but it’s twitter and I’m doing my best