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MAHIMA, UTSAV, AND YOU: HOW TO MAINTAIN SANITY IN THIS INSANE SAGA
[Full Disclosure: I& #39;ve worked with both Utsav and AIB for a while]
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MAHIMA, UTSAV, AND YOU: HOW TO MAINTAIN SANITY IN THIS INSANE SAGA
[Full Disclosure: I& #39;ve worked with both Utsav and AIB for a while]
Twitter is unravelling. Earlier, you were compelled took a radical stand against Utsav. Now, against Mahima. You’re disillusioned. How will you take a stand again? What if you are wrong? You’d look stupid for believing something wrong passionately. I have a graceful solution...
... for it. Three simple rules which, if followed, will avoid you guilt, save face, and make Twitter a healthier place.
1. Keep Room For Change
We take stands from what we know. What we know will always be incomplete and that’s alright. Mostly, it works out just fine. Sometimes though, what’s left out may change your view completely. You need to be mindful of that. It doesn’t mean...
We take stands from what we know. What we know will always be incomplete and that’s alright. Mostly, it works out just fine. Sometimes though, what’s left out may change your view completely. You need to be mindful of that. It doesn’t mean...
...you have to be unsure of everything all the time. It just means it’s wiser to avoid absolute statements — ‘This is bad’, ‘This is horrible’,etc., Have some room for a graceful change if the new details emerged. It’s very simple —
‘That sounds bad’, ‘That looks problematic’,etc., Small changes like these now will save big headaches later.
2. Address Everyone With Dignity
Giving yourself some room for a graceful change means a few more things. Avoid addressing person morally - No name-calling, no Implying they& #39;re hypocritical, etc., Always address everyone with dignity. You may wonder...
Giving yourself some room for a graceful change means a few more things. Avoid addressing person morally - No name-calling, no Implying they& #39;re hypocritical, etc., Always address everyone with dignity. You may wonder...
...why shouldn& #39;t a creep be called a creep?
Simple. Tactics like name-calling tie you to a conclusion. You have to pick a side for it. That closes you to the truth if new details emerge. Addressing all sides with dignity ensures you& #39;re open and neutral. I& #39;m not asking...
Simple. Tactics like name-calling tie you to a conclusion. You have to pick a side for it. That closes you to the truth if new details emerge. Addressing all sides with dignity ensures you& #39;re open and neutral. I& #39;m not asking...
...you to use honorific titles. Just dignity. It is in your interests. Let me explain.
Now that everything in this hyper-connected world is on social media, even a misstep of yours can blow-up massively. If it does...
Now that everything in this hyper-connected world is on social media, even a misstep of yours can blow-up massively. If it does...
...this culture of dignity will give you a fighting chance to survive. I& #39;d say, even if Utsav or Mahima or anyone is found to be guilty, they still need to be treated with dignity. Every saint has a past, every sinner has a future.
3. Attend To Needs:
The current approach on Twitter is to find a villain and then destroy them ruthlessly. I& #39;ve seen people encouraging others to even commit suicide. Now, compare this approach to attending to approaching people& #39;s needs.
The current approach on Twitter is to find a villain and then destroy them ruthlessly. I& #39;ve seen people encouraging others to even commit suicide. Now, compare this approach to attending to approaching people& #39;s needs.
If you see someone getting abused, you attend to their need for safety. You attend to their need for healing. You& #39;re asking for safe places. That may mean someone in power having to step down. But that& #39;s not the focus. Your focus is not on destroying someone& #39;s career or life...
... help building up someone& #39;s life. Are they getting enough chances for healing? Can you see how much more the healthier that conversation is?*
TL;DR Version: The Final Blue Print
In the dynamic world of social media, it& #39;s better to take stands judiciously. I provide a template for it below. Use it the next time Utsav tweets, or Mahima, or any other controversy. Feel free to use our own words:
In the dynamic world of social media, it& #39;s better to take stands judiciously. I provide a template for it below. Use it the next time Utsav tweets, or Mahima, or any other controversy. Feel free to use our own words:
1. Start with observations without judgment:
"It seems _________. Could you address it?"
2. Reply whether convinced. If not convinced:
"Could you explain _________"
(Repeat as per your instincts)
3. If you have to, state your current position:
"I& #39;m leaning towards _________"
"It seems _________. Could you address it?"
2. Reply whether convinced. If not convinced:
"Could you explain _________"
(Repeat as per your instincts)
3. If you have to, state your current position:
"I& #39;m leaning towards _________"
Bonus Step:
4. If you feel like connecting more:
"Do you need __________"
[*I must mention, the needs are of both sides. This means, even if the accused attempts to get a job, they& #39;re attending to his needs for sustenance. That& #39;s alright. I repeat the focus is on...
4. If you feel like connecting more:
"Do you need __________"
[*I must mention, the needs are of both sides. This means, even if the accused attempts to get a job, they& #39;re attending to his needs for sustenance. That& #39;s alright. I repeat the focus is on...
...helping people regain their lives. You may say that you don& #39;t need to attend to the needs of a person you hate. It& #39;s alright. I respect your need for autonomy.]
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