I feel like we glamourise drama and fighting in relationships so much that it’s messed with our expectations and what we’re willing to put up with.

I’m in the best relationship I’ve ever been in rn and nothing is perfect but it is easy.

We don’t have to fight to air our issues. We don’t have to “make up” to have good sex. We don’t see each other as flawed but as human. We both have our shit, I have PTSD after abuse and he lives with depression. We try to support each other, but we don’t have to try hard.

I know some of you will see this as a weird flex, but if I had known how easy it can be, if I had learned to recognise healthy relationships, I might never have found myself with an abusive ex bf.

If someone is making you feel like you have to earn their love and respect, you should bounce.

You deserve better and there’s probably someone in your life who is dying to treat you like the peach you are.

I’m not saying that good relationships don’t take work, of course you don’t quit the minute some dust settles, but you also don’t quit your job, move house and give up everything for someone who doesn’t even help out with the dusting.

Also while we’re here, check your friendships because they should be TWO WAY.

Ok I’m done. Happy lovemaking