Serious wisdom in this thread. One of the most devastating loses I experienced since starting the TT was my friends mother. She basically raised me after my mother became a hot mess. https://twitter.com/lkcalloway/status/1197950027970334720

She was there when I got married and when my kids were born. She took me to buy my first interview outfit. I lived in her home for a spell and talked to her regularly for advice.

When she passed after a battle with cancer, I kept a professional obligation instead of traveling home to LA for her funeral. I don’t even know why I did. I felt her loss as deeply as I’ve felt the loss of any of my close relatives. Maybe I didn’t feel as empowered..

..to ask for the time as I had when I had lost a relative. And I’m grown. I can’t even imagine the stress our students face trying to navigate all of these professional norms.

This obituary nonsense can end right now.

“Devastating losses.” I really hate autocorrect. My feed is a shit show of inflicted typos, science, and too few shoes. Which autocorrect tried to make “shot show” and “too few shows.”