I know there is a laundry list of men in my personal orbit that would benefit from reading this https://twitter.com/zamarudd/status/1197512616060608513

I also find it exhausting that like while trying to navigate dating especially on apps you’ll find a lot of men that categorize themselves as doms and assume you will be submissive right off the bat i.e. dive right in to calling you a slut or a whore or a brat or whatever

without asking about your tastes or what you want. Now BDSM isn’t necessarily my gig. But from what I can glean if you’re going around calling yourself a dominant, you should be treating the person you’re speaking to with respect because they might not share your kinks

Otherwise it comes off like a lot of these men just want to treat women badly without their consent. You need enthusiastic consent. If you’re not looking for that consent then you shouldn’t be having sex full stop

Like I’ve found this issue to be rampant on apps recently. I’m really not looking to get the bejesus slapped out of me all of the time, why is that the default that most men seem to go to, what’s a broad got to do to get treated nicely around here

Hmmmm that’s quite UPSETTING when you think about it isn’t it

My personal kink is being treated with respect but more and more it seems like my tastes are unconventional