Dommes are supposed to be the ones with power and in control right? So tell Me how...

If the "dominant" constantly needs the submissive to send them money to survive, is the dominant still in "control?" Who is relying on who? Who is the one with the power in the dynamic now?

And this is where the truth comes out, a lot of what you're seeing claiming to be "findom" on the internet. ISN'T.

It's sugaring/camming/selling services. Some people think they can get away with labeling their services as something they aren't to cash in on the word "findom."

BDSM is a LIFESTYLE. There's a code, and the "Findom" kink isn't just a way to "be mean and make money." (Or a way to sell your nudes.)It's something that real Dommes and subs enjoy.

Stop making a mockery of an amazing fetish educate yourself before you mislabel your "hustle."

The internet has a lot of ways to expand opportunities but at the same time it also spreads a lot of false information, and when that false information is out there and new "dommes" see this information they think they know how to "findom" from reading a few tweets. NOPE.

Sick of seeing girls posting "I need money." "Help me." A FinDomme should never need ANYTHING. (Other than a sub because a sub needs a Domme and a Domme needs a sub to feel complete.)
Dommes are strong INDEPENDENT Women not damsels in distress who will do anything for some coinz.

I support all SWer's, but what I don't support is when people come in and tarnish our fetish, destroy lives, and the lifestyle for their own selfish benefit.

The Findom/BDSM World is a community where we can all come together and be ourselves, but the mislabeling needs to stop.

If you are new cool!

But do yourself and everyone else a favor in the community by finding a mentor, doing some actual research (not just reading a few tweets), and LEARNING about the lifestyle before making yourself look stupid or aiding to the spread of misinformation.

If you want to sugar! Go for it, not findom though, it's a different power exchange.

If you want to cam, go for it! Again not findom.

If you want to see porn go for it! Not findom.

And yes you can do ALL of these things, but don't mix and mislabel it causes mass confusion.

But remember a Domme DOESN'T need a sub to survive.

A sub doesn't decide if he wants to send or not, the difference between you eating or starving, being evicted ect.

If you look at that dynamic, now the sub is controlling you and deciding the conditions.

Gross.

finsubs don't promise money in exchange for services, pics ect. And don't ask what "will i get in return if i send."

finsubs don't send for any reason other than getting pleasure from sending. That is what they get in return!

If you can't figure this out you're doing it WRONG.

If you have your "timewasted"/get scammed because you sent pics to ______ and they didn't pay you. That's your own fault you asked for it, because you weren't "doing findom" anyways.

If you educated yourself you would know that.

"subs" will take advantage of new girls.

Facts.

FIGURE IT OUT.

Not all dommes are Dommes, and not all "subs" are subs.

If you try to manipulate people for your own self benefit you'll get burned, and nobody will feel bad for you.

You don't "need" a subs money to survive or for ___ what you NEED a BDSM education and a JOB.