i hope people understand that the pushback against those ‘im actually at full capacity for helping people rn’ / ‘friendship is emotional labour’ isn’t because we think setting boundaries is bad it’s because doing so in a weird robotic and creepy way is bad.

i have a close friend who once said ‘i’m feeling really fragile right now and don’t think i can handle any tough love’ before asking me to listen to how she was feeling because she knew what my advice would be but just needed to be heard for a few minutes. THAT is normal.

no one is arguing that boundaries are bad and it’s disingenuous to pretend otherwise

since no one in this thread can read, i didn’t say once that using a template is bad i said quite plainly in the tweet that saying “sorry no spare empathy today friend try again later” and referring to listening to your friends as emotional labour is a very shitty thing to do. ♡