Dated bae ass for 7 years before we got married. Cut him off thrice within that time period. The longest breakup was 9 months. Yeah I loved him and he loved me but love is a verb and he wasn’t doing enough. Leave these niggas https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏾‍♀️" title="Woman shrugging (medium dark skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Woman shrugging (medium dark skin tone)">

No relationship journey is the same, but when I broke up with him I communicated that I was absolutely okay if we didn’t end up back together again. I loved him enough to accept that maybe we weren’t meant to be. I loved myself enough to know we had no business being friends.

So yeah when I tell people to leave these niggas I’m being absolutely serious. Stop wasting emotional labor on men who are committed to not meeting your needs. Cut off those trauma bonds and make room for growth. If they choose to grow with you down the line cool, if not oh well.