Signs of Mommy Issues in women: a thread https://twitter.com/AltOccult/status/1195553615412256769

if you felt you didn't deserve and rather had to earn your mother's love, you will always doubt your relationships with other people. Most often the mother is inconsistent, which results in the child mistrusting other people's expression of love/nurturing

if you didn't receive the attention and love you thought you deserved from your mother, you probably tried to overcompensate by doing your best to please her. This will transfer over to other relationships in your life, often displaying people-pleasing behavior.

You may be very sensitive and dependent on your partner, subconsciously forcing them to take on the mothering role in the relationship. For example, you may leave dirty dishes around the house, or never do your laundry and rely on your partner to clean up after you.

Because of this lack of support from the mother, you may feel defensive & detached when it comes to the way you open up to your partner because you were often met with judgement or criticism from your mother after doing so.

You can't establish a real emotional bond, so instead, you rely on your physical connection to hold the relationship together. Physical affection is how you gauge the strength of the relationship and any subtle shift in the way your partner reacts may cause you to panic.

Because you have a hard time understanding a woman's role in a healthy relationship due to lack of experience, you may find you look to other women (teachers, grandmothers, friends) as examples of this role. You may even find yourself involved in other people's relationships as a

way to experience what a healthy relationship could potentially look like.

If you find you use these coping mechanisms in your current relationships, it is important that you explore the issues you have with your mother, and how they currently effect your life. These issues can be overcome if you are open to doing the work to heal

All of the things above apply to ALL genders. The only reason I said "in women" is because daddy issues are most often associated with women, and mommy issues are usually ignored.