#LanguageMatters
In my mind, there’s no such thing as “bad kids.” There are good kids who sometimes make bad choices because of the things they’ve been through (who doesn’t?!). I’ve watched many of my kids crumble before me after being humiliated & labeled the “bad kid” by adults

All my kids know that they are good, loved, important, & special in my eyes. All my kids know that sometimes they make bad choices, but that those choices don’t define them or hurt our relationship. All my kids know that everyday is a fresh start, with me & with themselves.

Calling a kid “bad” accomplishes a couple of things: 1) harms any chance of a deep connection & relationship with adults 2) destroys a kid’s self-worth & self-esteem 3) becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that then increases the negative behavior(s) 4) ruins the idea of school.

Kids start thinking, “Why should I even try if it’s automatically assumed that I’m going to act out, be bad, etc.” Much of my work as a School Social Worker is undoing a lot of those negative thoughts & beliefs that “bad” kids then develop about themselves.

Imagine showing up to work everyday & your boss & coworkers bring up a mistake you have previously made, over & over & over again. You would be embarrassed & ashamed. You wouldn’t want to go to work!

Kids want to learn. More than that, kids desperately want deep connections & relationships with adults, ESPECIALLY the “bad” kids. Give kids a chance. Praise the behaviors you WANT to see. It’s amazing what kids can accomplish when they are supported by adults. #ProudSocialWorker