Thread by @SellyRejoice, As a 22-year-old single woman I’m pretty much living in the thickest [...]

As a 22-year-old single woman I’m pretty much living in the thickest part of the modern hookup culture – and I have to confess: I hate it with every fiber of my being.
A THREAD.

Everything is so damn complicated. Nobody asks you out on a date, they just ask you to “hang out”,so after you do, you can spend the next three days that you’re supposed to be ignoring them wondering exactly what it meant. Did you see a movie? Go to dinner? Have sex in the car?

Be careful, you guys were just hanging out. Right?
I don’t know, I wonder what he’s thinking.
What did our car sex mean to him?
I have a simple solution for those of you who struggle with these haunting questions: ask the other person. Oh wait, you can’t. Lmao. And here’s why:

We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine or are afraid to show it. When someone is angry with you, there’s no phone call asking to talk about it. Instead you get a passive aggressive response to a text message or a subtweet, calling you out in

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If you like someone, you don’t tell them how you feel; rather you act interested enough for them to pick up on it, but not enough to freak them out.
Exhausting

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Don’t like it? Too bad. It’s all a big game and if you don’t play by the rules then you lose, and if you lose you end up alone and drowning in a pile of your own insecurity, wondering what you did wrong.

Don’t ask to hangout two nights in a row. If you texted first last time, you have to wait for him to text you first this time. Don’t double text. You can’t assume anything is more than casual, even if you’re having sex. But you can’t talk about it either.

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If you’re wondering where a relationship is going and you decide to bring it up, every word you say has to be carefully chosen so you seem okay with any response you’re given, even if you’re not.

Everything is done through texting. It’s weird to call someone in the modern world just to have a conversation or try to make plans, so we’re forced to wait anxiously for a response that might not even come. Ouf

Everything is calculated to appear thoughtless, and it is one of the most exhausting games I’ve ever had to play. I could earn my masters degree with the amount of time and energy it takes to determine whether or not my casual hookup actually has feelings for me.

If I like someone, I want to hang out with him. Periodtt! But in the dating culture to which we are enslaved, it has to be more complicated than that. OMG. If I talk to him too much, I’m needy. If I’m always free when he asks me to hangout, I’m clingy and have no life of my own.

And if he takes three hours to respond to my text, and my phone is in my hand when I get his reply, I have to wait to answer so I don’t seem too eager or desperate. I constantly wonder why I play these stupid games, tbh.

Why can’t I call someone because I like talking to him? Why does showing I care make me needy? If I act angry when a guy blows me off, I’m just a crazy bitch, so my only other option is to complain to my friends and drown in anxiety until he finally texts me back.

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Ouens, I am so tired of living in a world where apathy is more effective in getting someone’s attention than honesty. I’m tired of the manipulative games that we play with one another in an effort to maintain control in a relationship that we’re not even allowed to define.

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