My therapist: talk to me about how you reward yourself for your accomplishments?

Me: reward? *stares blankly* why would I do that? I’m not gonna celebrate for doing what I’m supposed to do

Her, takes off glasses: oh boy

Me texting a friend: Apparently I have a problem with self praise or something

Friend: *silence*

Me: what

Friend: well...

Therapist: I feel like growing up you weren’t encouraged enough.

Me: starts crying remembering that one time my mom said she was proud of me

Therapist: yup

Now I have to count all the things I do in the day, including getting out of bed and brushing my teeth, and find ways to reward myself for doing them halp—but in all seriousness here goes my adventure trying to unlearn this mindset

Also haha I was so tempted to be like I drink wine regularly does that count but decided to avoid that dragging of drinking wine cannot be the only way you relax/celebrate/praise yourself