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This will be an unpopular thread in some quarters.
If a person is a legal adult, a parent can still advocate for their well being, but you can& #39;t expect others to believe your adult child was harmed if they don& #39;t believe that themselves. This is why adult detransitioners& #39; writings and opinions carry more weight than parents.
Medical transition is not going away. That Pandora& #39;s Box is wide open & some ppl are going to choose it & persist. Some may even be happy with that choice. Of course a parent would prefer their child be happy in their own skin, w/out drugs, surgeries, irreversible changes.
Desistance is not a dirty word, though trans activists & some clinicians have succeeded in making it one, with their rhetoric that it& #39;s "transphobic" to believe it& #39;s preferable to desist than spend a lifetime as a medical patient, risking irreversible interventions one may regret
So it& #39;s not wrong or "transphobic" for a parent to wish for desistance. But some adults will go on to transition. Some--but not all--will detransition. Whatever they do, it helps no one to claim they are irreversibly ruined human beings, only worthy of being wept over or mourned.
Many detransitioners--& yes, some people who tell you they are happy in the medical choices they& #39;ve made--are making important contributions to the growing, global conversation about the excesses & problems of trans activism & medical transition. They are anything but ruined.
The vast majority of detransitioners/desisters & ethical/concerned trans ppl don& #39;t want to be seen as wrecked poster children--especially in campaigns led by those who see LGB or even trans ppl as pitiful sinners who can and must be saved.
Every day, more detrans, desisted, & ethical trans ppl who see the problems w/youth medical transition are speaking up. Amplifying their voices is the best thing we can do. Even though we all KNOW adulthood isn& #39;t magically attained on someone& #39;s 18th birthday, the hard truth is..
...Those adults (some still very young) have to find their own way and their own voices. Those who detransitioned/desisted aren& #39;t being studied, & they are too often shouted down. How do we help them be heard? The future is in their hands.
No one knows what the persistence/desistence rate is going to be with the new, largely unstudied population of adolescent-onset (mostly) female transitioners is going to be. We need to push for research. And we need to keep trying to slow down the affirm-only train.
