It’s really about to be 2020 & ppl are still obsessed with this idea of imaginary “submission” like we’re slaves or something. That thirst for power & control comes from a place of insecurity. And I would never raise children in a household with a family structure like that

I wasn’t raised in a household where my parents needed to “submit” to each other & my father paid the bills. Like wtf is wrong with ppl? Do y’all know how to just be a loving family & have dinner together without recreating slave narratives in your relationships? I don’t think so

Also, if you want your aspire your marriage to be long standing & both of you being in good health/financially/happy successful offspring, you don’t stress, overwork, & embarrass your partner. It’s a UNIT. So it’s definitely gonna fail if one is stressed tf out. Duh.

Black men commonly have these laborious dreams for their families, especially their wife/partner that really have a lot to do with internalized trauma & obsession with re-enacting slave labor dynamics in their couple. You all have to evolve to flourish bc black women are

And that’s where I feel the true disconnect is with black love/marriage/coupling flourishing. Question yourself & why you want to truly overpower your own partner & realize where that brainwashing comes from & why successful educated black women of today don’t endorse it