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I'm so livid about the abject male stupidity on display in this "article" I'm going to tackle it point by point for men interested in advice from an actual expert in women's behavior... a woman with 37 years of experience. Thread
First things first 90% of the time if a woman is wearing headphones in public it's literally to deflect male interest. So your best bet is to respect that boundary and leave us TF alone.
Women live with the implicit threat of men every second of their lives so 1. Invading our personal space, 3. Aggressively waving your hand in our face isn't going to endear you to us 2. no matter how nice your smile.
4. Any guy who ignores our F-off cues to this level we have to take as a serious threat. Which means we're going to take our headphones off so we can judge how much danger we're in. This isn't a meet cute it's a hostage situation.
If you have to start a conversation with "I know it's not normal" it's NOT so DON'T! We aren't flattered and you're getting a fake name while we look for escapes. Usually in the form of catching another woman's eyes. We all know that desperate look from another woman.
BTW: extra creepy points to the writer for using my name in that little exchange. *shudder*
This is the portion I find extra disturbing. He starts out granting clemency for ignoring women's boundaries in favor of what men want because ultimately he/they (men) know whats best. 1 in 5 women know this "argument" all too well.
A little on "Allowing." This is where the writer tips his hand. He clearly understands women's fear of strange men and gets off on the power of trapping women into interaction. He's even found a way to blame women for it, like a proper misogynist.
This is a man who CLEARLY hates women. To a point where it's not enough for him to individually harass a portion of the population already victimized on every level. No. Now he's trying to teach other men to do it. Preying on the socially unsophisticated looking for help.
Sadly some will try this "technique" and will get shot down over&over. Probably getting madder&madder an will they blame the writer, themselves or will they blame the women just trying to get through their day unharmed? The cycle needs to be broken.
I honestly don't have a tidy ending for this. I'm just tired. I wanna go for a walk after dark & not be afraid. I wanna not worry about the best place to stab someone with my keys to get away while walking to my car. An I wanna zone out with my headphones & not be bothered!
PS Check out the human garbage pile who wrote this ode to rape culture. No wonder he won't put his government name on it. https://www.themodernman.com/dan_bacon.html
