I don't believe in Christian teachings that encourage (mostly women) to see being single as a season.

The thing with seasons is that something must come after.
After harmattan there must come rainy season.

Something must always come after.

So what if after investing yourself.
What if after preparing yourself. Working on yourself.

Trying to "walk in the spirit of a wife".
Learning how to cook.

What if after doing all these in your "single season", the next season (marriage) doesn't come?

The problem with teaching women to see being single as a season is that it makes constantly anticipate partnership.

It makes us view our singleness as a purgatory where we are refined for the "paradise" that is marriage.

It makes us swallow our voices and settle for less just so we can leave the "single season" and move onto the more societally acceptable season which is marriage.

Even worse, it teaches that the skills you learn in your single season such as self love are for a man.

Instead of teaching women to see being single as a season, why can't the church teach women to focus on improving ourselves first and foremost for ourselves?

Why can't the church teach women to be better kinder women not for marriage but for the overall good of society?

Finally ladies, your life as a single woman is not a season.

It is your life.
The mistakes and lessons you learn as a single woman are not in preparation for marriage.

They are preparing you to handle people and the rocks you'll experience till you die.