This probably is an unpopular opinion but I believe your spouse should always come before your children.

When you put your children first, it can create resentment in the relationship & this will weaken the marriage & have an effect on the kids.

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Another problem with putting your child before your spouse is that it makes the child believe they are the center of the universe and thus creates the entitled teen/adult.

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Your spouse needs support, too. The foundation in which your family was built on becomes broken if you are only concerned about your childs happiness & not the well-being of the spouse that works hard to provide for the family.

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Research shows people think children are what makes a happy life over a good marriage. Guess what? Those children grow up & things aren't always rainbows & unicorns. Then, they leave the house...& you're left wth a stranger you've neglected for 18 years.

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You have to remember, you are raising adults, not children. Let them see what a healthy relationship looks like so they can have one themselves someday.

Healthy, is putting each other first.

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