Sex with emotionally unavailable partners only seems amazing because they’re starving you of intimacy and sex is the only time you truly feel close to them

Just think of being starved for days and then someone offers you a candy bar. Bet it’ll seem like the best candy bar you’ve ever eaten in your life

So no you should not go back and sleep with your emotionally unavailable ex, no matter how tempting it is. It’s an illusion and what you’re really craving is real intimacy. Intimacy that they’re not equipped to give you

This is exactly why having a support system is so important when you’re going through a breakup. You need real connection to get past the false one you just experienced. Isolating yourself makes you more likely to go back to that toxic ex

There’s a reason why abusive partners wanna isolate you from your friends/family and discourage you from pursuing your career. It’s not just because they want you financially dependent on them. They want you emotionally dependent on them too

They emotionally starve you, give you love crumbs from time to time, then dare you to leave. They know they’re your only source of (false) intimacy because they’ve cut you off from anyone/anything that makes you feel loved

So please don’t return back to your toxic ex. Instead try to connect with people and activities that can give you that genuine love that we all want and need. Your ex has convinced you that only they can give you that feeling but it’s an illusion. Cut through it.

In reference to the candy bar example mentioned earlier: When you’re no longer starving, I promise the candy bar won’t even taste that great anymore. Somebody will offer it to you and you’re like “Hmm no thanks, I don’t even like that brand” lol. You’re full and you have options