Girl 1: My bf travels 3 hours to see me when we fight.
Girl 2: My bf travels 8 hrs to see me on weekends.
Me: Would he allow you to keep your maiden name? Does he believe that women have a right to their bodies? Would he get a vasectomy? Ask the right questions.

Where does he stand on EJK? What does he think of rape jokes? Can a woman be blamed when she is raped? Any guy can travel and give you flowers. Especially before they have sex you. It's not a contest. It's the life you'll have with him that you need to know about.

What percentage of housework is he responsible for? Is it okay for him to sit and watch TV while you wash dishes or change diapers? Will he insist on spending more time with his children? Will he be fine if you're the breadwinner? Who has priority? His family or his friends?

Uy, napakaseryoso naman. Ligawan lang naman pinag-uusapan. Exactly! LIGAW-an. Huwag tayong maligaw sa mga maginoo kuno efforts. In seeking a partner, get down to the details of their values and humanity. Flowers and chocolates easily hide misogyny. Abusers give presents. Lots.