To all the ppl in teens & 20s who been knew in their heart that they didn’t want kids & everyone keeps telling them that they’re gonna change their mind or a partner will successfully pressure them to have kids:

I’m 30. I never changed my mind & I’m soooo happy I never did.

Have I dated ppl who’ve wanted kids? Yes. We broke up. I didn’t want to waste their time & they couldn’t/wouldn’t change my mind

Don’t listen to socialization. Kids are not mandatory & not wanting to sacrifice for them is ok. You won’t be alone. That’s what chosen family is for.

I wrote a piece about this here: https://twitter.com/queeringpsych/status/1021400799887482881?s=21

And this whole thread: https://twitter.com/queeringpsych/status/1038936661663666187?s=21

This is esp for Black cis women who don’t want kids. I know how everyone treats y’all. I remember from my forced cosplaying days. Cis men particularly of all races would literally shout in my face that I would die alone and miserable.

I’m surrounded by my chosen fam. I am loved.

I wanna add: I knew I didn’t want bio children since I was 15. A lot of the same ppl who tried to pressure & shame me into having kids in my 20s are now telling me I made the right call. So listen to yourself and take honest stock of your own life: https://twitter.com/queeringpsych/status/1010333603484655616?s=21