me: here& #39;s a link to a thread about the historical relationship of kink culture and Pride. erasing acknowledgement of this intertwined relationship from Pride benefits capitalists & conservatives

a reactionary:

this is respectability politics: trying to make ourselves palatable to the people who hate us by conforming as much as we can to their cultural norms.

spoilers: we will never succeed in making ourselves palatable to bigots.

when marginalized ppl play this game, we always lose.

OP& #39;s reference to & #39;wearing a leash& #39; nearly killed me b/c it was literally yesterday that I reblogged a thread by @rhodanum pointing out that almost all anti-kinky-LGBTQ-presence-at-Pride discourse is sparked by a radfem tumblr post complaining about ppl on leashes in public

this reaction is not only wildly out of proportion, but also based on an assumption that *I* must be kinky/into wearing leashes.

(in reality: not only am I *not* kinky: I& #39;m uncomfortable w/displays of kink irl! but I& #39;m able to recognize my discomfort =/= inherently bad.)

anyway.

reminder that REGs have spent 8+ yrs calling ace&aro ppl & #39;oppressors& #39; b/c 1 ace person once said they didn& #39;t like sexual PDA in any context, including Pride

yet unironically argue kinky sexual PDA shouldn& #39;t be allowed at Pride b/c Respectability(tm) & The Children(tm)

ofc I don& #39;t want kids traumatized, & educating young ppl on queer culture & kink culture should be done w/care.

but Pride Parades aren& #39;t about making queer culture child-safe. there are sexual aspects to queerness! hiding them does us no favors! https://twitter.com/freetofic/status/1134170074443603976">https://twitter.com/freetofic...

as @errorbunny indicates:

Kids, especially queer/LGBT+ kids, 100% belong at Pride - but they also 100% belong in age-appropriate spaces, separated from any sexual aspects of Pride they& #39;re not ready for. https://twitter.com/errorbunny/status/1134208115023519744">https://twitter.com/errorbunn...