When you lead, you will oft be perceived as an asshole, because those you rule will test you.

They will misbehave, disobey, even sabotage - your duty is to stop the chaos from unfolding, and it is in these moments you must assert the full might of your discernment and authority. https://twitter.com/SirMIAX/status/1128339474142965765

When you discipline as is just and necessary, you will be seen as an ass.

You cannot let this perception sway you, for if you do - you will not properly attend to your duty.

You do this duty out of love - do you see?

Unending kindness does not tame insolence, it permits chaos.

That which superficially appears kind - to be permissive, to not enforce discipline, but to enable and facilitate and "try to understand" at all costs is not real leadership, and in the grand scheme, is neither a kindness to them or yourself.

Tough love is the opposite of this.

The real poetry comes in being seen as the bad guy for doing the right thing.

Naturally one cannot expect those who have never ruled over anything or been lead properly to view this from anything but the lens of a child - the nuance of this all too manly experience escapes them.

We as men are used to being misunderstood by women and boys, because it is our role as disciplinarian - a dirty, but necessary and ultimately benevolent role that sees us smeared and unappreciated

It takes a son's multi decade ascension to manhood to appreciate his father's ways

But at least a boy, in time, with maturity and reflection - can come to understand, make peace with, and thusly take on the burden of maintaining order his father did

Not for glory nor pride - but for the good of his family

Only in his own burden, can he appreciate his father's

The need to maintain order in committed sacrifice is the male version of childbirth - the ultimate price - and it is paid for a lifetime.

Except much unlike childbirth, it is not honoured and celebrated with reverent gratitude, no, much unlike childbirth - it is often thankless.

However unlike boys, women are not charged with maintaining order, because being the embodiment of chaos themselves, they're unable to.

So much unlike boys, they dont come to understand the ways of men.

They resent the very authority they need in perpetual adolescent rebellion.

This is why you do not follow women. For by the very childishness of their chaos, they will mislead.

They can only tell you what they want in line with the idealisations and romanticisms of their misguided sensibilities, not what they need to thrive. Not what works in practice.

Her wants are secondary to her needs, and where her wants violate her needs, you must deny her them.

You must know better than her for her own sake, & forgive her for her foolish grabs at your authority.

She can't help doing this, for woman is ultimately foolish in her emotion.

The bible didn't deny women from exercising authority over or instructing men out of misplaced ancient misogyny, but as a way to maintain order in recognition of her intrinsic inability to see beyond her position as the caretaken.

The depth of this wisdom transcends time itself.