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Daenery's let anger get the better of her.
Her son and her best friend died. And she lost her lover.
Maybe some of the tips in this thread could have helped her.
#leadershiplessonsfromgameofthrones
Her son and her best friend died. And she lost her lover.
Maybe some of the tips in this thread could have helped her.
#leadershiplessonsfromgameofthrones
When you are angry count to 10 before you respond.
When very angry,count to 100'
-Getting past no
When very angry,count to 100'
-Getting past no
When making decisions driven by grief/anger or both we are NEVER at our most objective.
The first casualty when you are attacked, is your objectivity.
Thats why William Ury from Harvard encourages anyone in a tense situation to take time out or as he puts it 'go to the balcony' before writing that email.
Thats why William Ury from Harvard encourages anyone in a tense situation to take time out or as he puts it 'go to the balcony' before writing that email.
'When dealing with a difficult person, the objective & priority should be to control your own behaviour, not his/hers"
She tried to control Cersei and Varys when she should have been trying to control herself.
To communicate effectively when angry move from furious to curious. Ask questions. Try to understand.
Asking questions helps you understand peoples motivations.
A formal trail, that allowed Varys to defend himself, would have helped Dany understand his motivations and perhaps excercise some restraint.
A formal trail, that allowed Varys to defend himself, would have helped Dany understand his motivations and perhaps excercise some restraint.
Nobody makes you angry; you decide to use anger as a response.
Her best friend and son were dead.
Her lover was no longer interested in her.
Her response to these facts was still in HER control. She DECIDED to use anger as a response, with devastating consequences for the people of Kings Landing.
Her lover was no longer interested in her.
Her response to these facts was still in HER control. She DECIDED to use anger as a response, with devastating consequences for the people of Kings Landing.
J.Pffefer from Stanford Business school teaches that
'Almost all conflicts have hidden solutions. Consider a wide range of parties; this is something that we don't normally do'
Dany didn't give proper consideration to the hidden solutions.
'Almost all conflicts have hidden solutions. Consider a wide range of parties; this is something that we don't normally do'
Dany didn't give proper consideration to the hidden solutions.
Listening is one of the most overlooked conflict management skills. We listen a lot more than we talk. But we are really bad at it. Listening requires focus. Its tricky. Its active.
I learned this from the Great Courses episode on Conflict Management which you can download from http://www.audible.com
Dany was hearing her advisors, but not listening.
William Ury from Harvard University puts this nicely when he says:
"I have come to the conclusion that the greatest obstacle to getting what we really want in life is not the other party, as difficult as he or she can be.
The biggest obstacle is actually ourselves"
"I have come to the conclusion that the greatest obstacle to getting what we really want in life is not the other party, as difficult as he or she can be.
The biggest obstacle is actually ourselves"
Emotional intelligence is the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence
-Forbes
-Forbes
Emotional Intelligence or EQ is not related to our IQ or technical skills. EQ is about how we bring those skills to the table.
Daniel Goleman determined that there are five fundamental features of EQ, each with their own benefits:
1. Self-awareness
2. Self regulation
3.Empathy
4. Motivation
5. Social skill
1. Self-awareness
2. Self regulation
3.Empathy
4. Motivation
5. Social skill
She allowed herself to become overwhelmed by grief and anger.
This made her lose sight of her objectives and her well developed skills.
She completely lost her self awareness, self regulation and empathy.
This made her lose sight of her objectives and her well developed skills.
She completely lost her self awareness, self regulation and empathy.
Weirdly enough as explained in this video by Columbia Business School, emotional intelligence was one of her strengths.
Watch Prof Craven break down all the ways Dany has exhibited a high degree of emotional intelligence
Watch Prof Craven break down all the ways Dany has exhibited a high degree of emotional intelligence
