okay, kids, if Brontë and I can get over our love of Joe Biden virtually overnight, so can the rest of you!!

like...

so many of you do amazing anti-violence work centered around accountability as a means to healing. and I KNOW it is hard to hold your faves accountable when they disappoint you. but guess what? you still have to do it, even when it& #39;s hard!!

"but VAWA!"

oh, right, I forgot about that patriarchal math where 1 VAWA = immunity from accountability for 5-10 (?) instances of making women feel uncomfortable and/or violated.

so, how many VAWAs do you need to draft in order to be forgiven for something more serious? hmmm?

"but he never made me feel uncomfortable!"

y& #39;all. come on. if you work in anti-violence advocacy, you KNOW that this is pretty much the #1 type of language that folks (even well-meaning folks!) use to defend harmful, abusive, or otherwise problematic people.

tbh I don& #39;t know where I& #39;m going with this thread! I& #39;m just tired of seeing people I love, whose work I respect, doing such intense mental gymnastics to defend a man who has gone so far out of his way to avoid accountability time and time again. we can do better, y& #39;all. come on.