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i saw someone on here say that they haven& #39;t seen anything "exciting" about capricorn. not sure how the drive towards mastery, accomplishment, becoming a pillar of integrity, wisdom, and a REAL "salt of the earth" type" grounded in reality, wouldn& #39;t be, but we& #39;ll see in a sec...
Venus in Capricorn: A Thread
there& #39;s absolutely nothing wrong with approaching love & relationships with the same maturity, drive and commitment which you approach the other facets of your life.
there& #39;s absolutely nothing wrong with approaching love & relationships with the same maturity, drive and commitment which you approach the other facets of your life.
For individuals with the natal placement of Venus in Capricorn, Love is solid; you can take it to the bank. Love is enduring . Love is order. Love is structure. There are “rules” to love. Love is responsibility.
Love is commitment. Love is a test. Love is integrity. Love is discipline. Love is work. Love is maturity, and like fine wine, gets better with time.
Love is the neutralizing of one’s defense mechanisms in order to open up the heart space. In the words of Edwin Louis Cole: “Boundaries are meant to protect life, not to limit pleasures.”
Two developmental questions for those with Venus placed in Capricorn would be: (1) What are my ultimate responsibilities in regard to my intimate relationships and (2) How can I become a model of integrity in my relationships allowing thought, word and deed to masterfully align?
It’s clear that this is a serious situation when the fulfilling of Venus’ relating needs are sought by way of the Saturn-ruled Capricorn environment. However, in this case, serious merely means that it requires immediate and skillful attention.
Contained in this placement, is an overarching strength in understanding the importance of delayed gratification and the awareness that REAL and ORGANIC relationship processes take TIME and WORK. If there’s anyone capable of sustaining long-term relationships, it is you.
In order to successfully navigate this placement, one must be willing to exert the necessary effort towards fostering which will likely be fewer relationships (as compared to many) of quality, substance and depth.
The focus here is not light and unfettered social butterfly-ism, but rather the establishment of solid foundations with others that build bridges of trust, honesty and mutual respect.
To facilitate this process, it’s key to understand the all important part that the lowering of one’s defenses and self-revelation plays in its overall effectiveness. For Venus in Capricorn, the thawing of a natural reserve can be difficult for a few reasons.
RE: the more maladaptive expressions of Venus in Cap, Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green introduces a theory which outlines delayed emotional development & an intense blockage, constriction and compression of one’s feelings, as a result of induced guilt from the parental relationship.
In fact, the Venus in Capricorn individual may have witnessed, and or been a part of an environment where vulnerability, open affection and free relating were not top priorities, but rather ” conditional love from a distance” and an authoritarian stance reigned supreme.
When we consider how this may filter into ones intimate relationships at worst, we arrive at an unremarkable need to “manage” one’s image and relationships borne out of an excessive fear of rejection or feeling inadequately “prepared” to participate in relationships.
The compensation for this is to view relationships as a “game” where strategic moves, or having a “one up” carry more value than a mutual sharing of intimate feelings and thoughts.
Nevertheless, for those with Venus in Capricorn the universe’s call is for them to participate in the process of “undefended love”, a term coined by Marlena Lyons and Jett Psaris:
“Intimacy-direct, unmediated, heart-to-heart connection with ourselves and with others-can only occur when the heart is undefended. "
"To cut through our personal differences, to reach the unveiled part of ourselves that is deep enough to express the most profound and untamed aspects of our being means learning how to love and be loved without defenses and without obstructions."
"It means cultivating the capacity to be emotionally present even when we feel exposed or vulnerable; learning to relinquish the many strategies we have employed to feel safe and in control; and finding the courage to love without guarantees or requirements.”
Like anything else, these things take time. So, it wouldn’t be fitting with the Saturn/Capricorn archetype, if one was expected to snap into this mode of being overnight. the greater lesson which can be learned through conscious & active participation w/ this placement is :
When you, the Venus in Capricorn individual, keep your heart open, you’re able to continue an unrestricted conversation with the source which moves you toward loving and constructive actions as well as healthy choices which will nourish you emotionally.
With Venus in Capricorn, one of the best case scenarios is that you’ll arrive in a place which demonstrates that neither genuine honesty and vulnerability or healthy human boundaries restrict you from experiencing the love and relationships you crave and deserve.
If you allow unpleasant experiences with one (or more) individual(s) to control the manner in which you live and love moving forward, you’ve essentially “given up the wheel” in favor of living reactively.
It’s vital that through your growth you increase your awareness.
It’s vital that through your growth you increase your awareness.
Developing an inner dialogue with yourself allows you to stay in the “driver’s seat” and define your own experiences and attitudes when it comes to life, love, and relationships.
And, it’s gravely important for you to avoid using temporarily unfavorable outcomes as a platform for beating up on yourself. A more constructive move would be to combine your newly discovered insights with your inner wisdom.
Even through your pain and heartbreak you will discover a marvelous teacher. Pain shows us where our limits are, allowing us to say “ouch”.
If nothing led you to this point, how would you know what hurts? Better yet, how would you know when enough is enough?
If nothing led you to this point, how would you know what hurts? Better yet, how would you know when enough is enough?
As horrible as you may have felt (or may be feeling) during trying times, if you wish to fully participate in life and loving in the most authentic sense, sooner or later, you must risk the same painful emotions resurfacing in your life.
You could possibly spend the rest of your days attempting to employ more sophisticated tactics of pain avoidance, projection, self-protection, and the like. However, by all indicators, this is not what you truly desire to do.
What you really wish to do is LOVE SERIOUSLY while maintaining healthy boundaries. It is through these boundaries that you maintain& preserve your self-love & respect while simultaneously allowing yourself to reach out & offer the key to your heart, as a sacred gift, to another.
