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Having a second child changes one& #39;s approach to parenting or at least it changed mine. As I have heard from some parents, the toughest leap is from 1 to 2 kids, subsequently it gets easier. The thing is, while the adjustment can be tough on parents, it is also tough on the kid...
especially if that kid was used to being an only child for a while. Before having baby No. 2 a couple of months ago, Asher was the centre of my world. At 5, I still babied him around a lot. I genuinely saw him as a baby and not as a little kid. We had settled into our routine...
Asher was my egg :D, no scratch or bruise was allowed on him. I tried my best to prevent him from getting ill. I was always worried about him whenever he was out of my reach. Little did I know that Asher& #39;s baby brother would be the game changer..
See, no one tells you about these things. I thought it would be a seamless adjustment, afterall, a mother& #39;s heart has enough love for all her kids right? From the moment I gave birth, Asher transformed to an adult before my eyes. He was so big while his brother was tiny...
He could talk, his brother couldn& #39;t, he could dress himself, feed himself, was potty trained, could read, his brother couldn& #39;t do any of these things. It hit me that this boy wasn& #39;t a tiny fragile creature, his brother was. Then all of a sudden, I was constantly screaming...
"you are not a baby", "you should act your age".
Who babied him to this point? Me.
Asher knew no other life or behaviour. In my hormonal state, I quickly forgot that this was an adjustment for him too. To be fair to Asher, he wasn& #39;t one of those kids who was sad to have a sibling
Who babied him to this point? Me.
Asher knew no other life or behaviour. In my hormonal state, I quickly forgot that this was an adjustment for him too. To be fair to Asher, he wasn& #39;t one of those kids who was sad to have a sibling
He has been very excited to have a baby brother and has been protective of him. He is willing to help in any way required. However I noticed he started acting out. He suddenly got very naughty and was doing the opposite of what he was told irrespective of consequences...
It was then that it hit me that I was missing something. I called Asher for a conversation, asked him how he felt about his new brother and our new family. He said he loved his brother and then he said: "mummy you& #39;ve been mean to me since giving birth"...
My heart broke into a thousand little pieces. Indeed, I was & #39;mean& #39;, I would term it impatient but this was how my darling Asher saw me now. I put myself together and apologized to him, I tried to explain how fragile baby was and how he depended on me for everything while he was..
a big boy that was somewhat self-sufficient. I have since made effort to give him as much time as possible and I& #39;m now constantly serenaded with "I love you mummy" several times a day. In fact, this morning, his dad proudly brought him to me, they were trying some manly ish
His dad goes: Who is your best friend?
Asher responds, "you, daddy".
I& #39;m like okay ooo. Asher quickly adds "Mummy you are my MOST best friend"
Yaaas that& #39;s what I want to hear from my boy.
I can& #39;t let all these men in my life push me to a corner with their aluta.
Asher responds, "you, daddy".
I& #39;m like okay ooo. Asher quickly adds "Mummy you are my MOST best friend"
Yaaas that& #39;s what I want to hear from my boy.
I can& #39;t let all these men in my life push me to a corner with their aluta.
Anyways, since having baby, I have quickly become a more laid back parent, after all I have 2 kids to pour my love to and not one anymore. I& #39;m taking everything in it& #39;s stride and not sweating stuff too much. I just wish I had prepared myself for the adjustment which I thought...
would be automatic. Thankfully we are getting there and I love all three of my boys (yep, the third is the number 1 big baby, their papa)
