So they say there is two sides to every story.. but I disagree.. there is two sides and the screen shots.. this is what brought me to tinder.. and eventually this is who caused me to be banned.. I’ve never shared any of it because for some reason ... I am embarrassed..

This was the first message I had gotten from this person. The message that I wrote about the hair I did send. I don’t have a picture of sending it, but I also said my girlfriends told me I was right in thinking his comment was a douche one, so I was equally as big of a jerk..

This was the convo that transpired. I then shared the photograph to datingjustsucks an instagram account that had 50k followers. The account was banned 5-10 days later. I thought nothing of it..

During this time I got another message from this person. But did not think to take a picture at the time. The message had only said something like oh look the site says we are perfect matches. I deleted it and carried on with my day.

Some time passed and this is the message I got from him on a different dating site.

After this I deleted the app. And stupidly went on the original app where this had started.

When I joined the other app again. He had added me to his favorites and was checking my profile several times a day. I wasn’t able to block him because unless the person contacts you there is no way to block them

During this period I was also contacted by several men, with only one picture who were catfishing but made it very clear the motive was to get my phone number. I also was very uneasy with the fact that this person knew I had my own blog yet I keep that information very private

He would show up on my people you know for both Facebook and Instagram even though we had no common friends to speak of. After two more random weird messages from him I deleted the profile and went to using my tinder account

I also went to tinder because I felt like I had control over who could contact me. Since I didn’t want the messages all I had to do was swipe left and it would be no big deal.

I had the account for more then a year before this & would hide it when I was interested in someone. I made the profile public again. Maybe after a month of having the account open I see his profile. I swiped left and moved on. Less then 3 days later I was banned from the app.

I contacted tinder who would give me no information on why I was banned and told me there is no appeals process. I sent them screenshots and asked them if this man was the reason my account was removed ( because mind you the dating just sucks ig was removed)

I had just saw his profile; I had the account for a long time, I knew I was real, and I knew I didn’t send anyone anything that violated their terms. I had also seen other women who said they had similar experiences.

I was told they had no information for me at this time. I decided to give the other app a try again, and shortly after I made it this is the message I got .. i blocked him and tried to shake it off. Two days later; he made a new account and favorited me again..

His profile is still on tinder. I know this because I had shared his pic with my close girlfriends, in the first discussion we ever had. I’ve had several other encounters with catfishing guys that i never had before this person came into my life.

All who have made it clear the goal is just to get my number, I’ve also had several random friend request on face book, also from catfish that I hadn’t gotten before I met this person. So yeah dating sucks.. and if I was a famous stories like mine would be more public

And while writing this my anxiety has been high .. and I doubt I’ll even keep it up.. but it’s not fair that people are being punished for existing.. meanwhile the person who’s actually wrong gets to keep doing whatever they want..

Thank you @tinder for making me feel like I am to blame for this situation. And please don’t ever ask why a women didn’t report ... #meetoo #whyididntreport #stalking #TuesdayThought