Penetration doesn't have to a part of sex for you. Don't force yourself to find pleasure in something that's not pleasurable for you. Rape culture says you must, but it's not required. If it's not enjoyable for you, don't do it. A partner who can't respect that can go.

We've been socialized to believe that good sex, enjoyable sex, 'actual' sex must consist of penetrative sex. That's rape culture. It's also a blatant disregard for trauma that many sexual abuse survivors face. Sex can be enjoyable without penetration.

Rape culture is the sociopolitical climate created around sex that does not prioritize consent—especially with regards to the sex lives of women/queer/trans folks. This includes regarding any sexual act as a requirement for sex w/no thought as to how it could harm others.

I want us all to live our happiest lives with the sex we enjoy and deserve (if sex is something you are interested in). I also want us all to be mindful of how rape culture shows up in our sex lives, even when we don't intend for it to.

I've talked about all of this before: https://twitter.com/_iamroyal/status/923427341681987584?s=21

https://twitter.com/_iamroyal/status/865470398732804100?s=21

Before I mute this thread, I am going to add this here. Hopefully it provides clarity for whomever is still confused: https://twitter.com/_iamroyal/status/1063947796271775749?s=21