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At the behest of a friend I watched Palahniuk on Rogan and he said something that struck me. He said there is a scarcity of fiction for men, almost nothing that speaks from the masculine heart. My paraphrase. Of course we could all think of some examples...
So I am going to speak now about being a man, by talking a bit about women.
If you've paid attention then you've heard that men have no idea what the lived experience of a woman is like. That we can't imagine what it's like to have no bodily security, at risk at all times, after dark or in a lonely street, or what it's like to endure the pains of labor
I'll bite that bullet, and note that women fail to mention other experiences unique to their sex: the feeling of erotic compulsion towards beings who could physically overpower them, crush them, smother them; the visceral and overpowering force of their emotions (neurotypically)
The reason I will bite that bullet is that it forces us to bite a symmetrical one. The claim is that thereâs nothing in male life that women don't know, because men are the architects of the world; this gives us too much credit, and women far too little https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1055228737304686592
Indeed the world of men is inaccessible to women, just as the world of women is inaccessible to men. Regardless of how you understand the difference, if we're to accept that such a thing as "lived experience" is impenetrable from the outside, then we must cede it to everyone
You might object that all of the western canon was written by men, & therefore the content of male lived experience is abundantly clear, but if you make that argument, then we reply that only a man, maybe only a certain sort of man, has the lived experience to decode these texts
The component of male lived experience that is wholly unaccessible to women, more than any other, is the colossal and abyssal apathy of the universe towards you. Women cannot relate to this, except perhaps women of exceptional ugliness, childless crones, and FtM transexuals
The apathy of the universe is bottomless, and to a man, uniquely to a man, he begins to feel this apathy even from a very young age, he becomes the object of a radical indifference, in equal measure to what vitality he shows
A woman can never know of the consummate coldness of the universe, for man and woman alike feel the overpowering, all-consuming need to care for women; Woman thinks that she has been controlled by man, but in fact there is no difference between control and protection
To be regarded with apathy is the price one pays for liberty https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1050389201181528064
She never even glimpses the contours of masculine reality. And because she does not feel the coldness of the universe, because man has always put her in the safest, warmest, most interior place, next to the food and the fire, she cannot see the world as he sees it, as mechanism
fMRI is probably pseudoscience but I seem to recall reading that the same part of a mans brain is used for tool use and also for regarding women. https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1047115237478912000
Objectification of women is not a sin but an immutable fact. In the eyes of man there are only objects, and women the most cherished of all! There is nothing more valuable to a man than feminine beauty; to behold a beautiful woman is sufficient justification for all existence
For this reason few things injure us so much as the egregore known as "social justice activism," because it is an autocatalytic loop of ugliness https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1054376830839345153
An ugly woman is not as well cared-for as a beautiful one, hence she is less controlled.
Being unloved, she consoles herself with a lie; "I do not WISH to be loved", except she phrases it, "I cannot bear to be ruled by a man"
To prove it, she makes herself uglier
Being unloved, she consoles herself with a lie; "I do not WISH to be loved", except she phrases it, "I cannot bear to be ruled by a man"
To prove it, she makes herself uglier
There are few things more dangerous than feedback loops without dampeners. The classic example of cybernetics is the thermostat which tries to change the temperature of the room in response to the temperature of the room. A signal modulates an action which modulates a signal
In the situation of the ugly woman, her self-amplification of her ugliness causes others to love her even less, and so she makes herself even uglier. Ugliness creates a desire whose fulfillment creates even more ugliness, a feedback loop without a dampener
And I often hear "society teaches men to hide their weaknesses, as a result they are emotionally repressed". no No NO. Men who have no connection to their own masculinity parrot this idiocy. Masculine inner life is different from feminine. Our nakedness does not look like yours
Man's vulnerability IS written out, at impossible length, across the whole of civilization, and its twin aspects are Woman and the Void. These are our weaknesses. Man's vulnerability is not the fear of being crushed by our protectors, it is the pain of god's radical neglect
And there is something ineffable about woman's power: nominally she submits, but in submitting, she rules. To be crass, she "tops from the bottom". All of man's striving and sacrificing is ultimately to please her, to protect her, whatever he tells himself https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1046165281695891456
It's better to see women as a force of nature. Her weakness is her strength, her submission is her domination. Giving her explicit and nominal political power substantially raises her above man, since her power is informal, covert, almost impossible to describe
Even the most powerful man is ruled by women, in a way that, if you say it, sounds stupid and fake, sounds like it's all in his head, sounds like something imagined.
He is ruled by his implicit and inexorable gynolatry
He is ruled by his implicit and inexorable gynolatry
As for all that alpha male, red pill, strong independent man who don't need no woman type of posturing, what we call machismo: it's a bit like the ugly woman feedback loop, but unlike its reflection, it can be useful in pushing a man towards sexually attractive actions
Many things that are partly true, or half-true, or outright false, can still be useful things to believe. Such things can be even more useful than the truth, in many cases. Masculine pride is like that.
