cn: biphobia
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I came out to my friends and family as bi when I was 12 years old. People at school called me an "attention whore" and queer people asked me "Would you ever have sex with a woman?" which confused my ace self for a decade since. #NationalComingOutDay

Since then, folks have apologized on #NationalComingOutDay when I shared this story on Facebook. Education on bisexuality is improving day by day, if only people could be more nuanced and understanding about asexuality too.

My bisexuality and asexuality are so intertwined. I felt the need to validate my bisexuality by performing allosexuality. It was painful and weird and I wish queer folks weren't forced to perform anything to "prove" they're queer. #NationalComingOutDay

The funny thing about being bi and acespec is I have to come out to *myself* over and over again. Am I really bi if I rarely feel sexual attractiom? Am I really ace if I sometimes do? Maybe by existing in this in between, I don't belong anywhere at all. #NationalComingOutDay

But the beauty of being queer is our understanding of sexuality and gender is constantly changing and growing and us with it. I can comfortably say I'm bi grayace now. Labels don't limit us they help us put words to how we feel. #NationalComingOutDay