Cancer Moon: TEA

The moon is comfy in cancer. Cancer moons are reserved in emotional expression. They try to protect themselves by keeping to themselves. They’re warm, patient, kind, and feel like home. They see, they feel, they know.

They listen and provide a space for those they love to share. They are sensitive, yes, but not in a way that is obvious. Many times, they don’t know how to express their pain or hurt. They may feel extremely disappointed or hurt by your actions—

—but never say anything about it because they don’t want to make you feel bad. They’ll choose to keep their feelings to themselves if they feel like expressing them would cause someone else pain.

Cancer moons shut down pretty quickly when they feel like their safety is at risk or when they are hurt by someone’s words. They’re afraid of putting their feelings into words because they fear being rejected immediately after sharing/being vulnerable.

It’s hard for cancer moons to get to a place where they feel completely safe and secure being open about their feelings and insecurities. They cannot deal with yelling, and will shut down when someone acts aggressively or is hostile towards them.

The second you yell or get aggressive a cancer moon will not hear you because they feel they no longer feel safe to express/talk. They do not like fighting or any kind of conversation that seems like a fight, which is why they may avoid expressing themselves when hurt by others.

They don’t want a problem, they don’t want to speak up and risk the possibility that it may start a fight. Cancer moons would rather suffer in silence and avoid the person that hurt their feelings than be open and honest about why they are hurt.

The other possibility is that the cancer moon will go on the defense. It’s easy for a cancer moon to feel like people are accusing them of something because a lot of the time they feel like they are doing something wrong or inconveniencing others.

Sometimes cancer moons just need a minute. They’re easily overstimulated by their environment and gain strength and clarity in silence and time alone. Sometimes they feel like it’s easier to be alone than to be with someone and possibly lose them.

Cancer moons have a hard time processings sudden changes in their environment and in relationships. They tend to shut down when things with their relationships or in their life aren’t going well.

They need stability when it comes to their relationships with others. One must be consistent in the way they act and show up for a cancer moon in order for a cancer moon to begin to feel safe to show their deep vulnerability and sensitivity.

Cancer moons are not crybabies, at least not in front of others. They don’t like to be seen as weak and when they’re in pain they tend to feel that way. They’re the kind of people that know the answer in class, but never raised their hand so no one ever knows that they knew.

For all the cancer moons out there who are afraid to be seen, know that you don’t have to hide. You are loved for exactly who you are. I love you and appreciate you for exactly who you are.