Honestly people should learn to mind their business and allow people do their marriage the way they want to. It's another thread but I promise it's super short

So myself and my husband got married April 17th 1998
(myself and my husband sounds weird)
A few months later a colleague of my husband got married. Of course the comparison by the office people started

I told my husband he should not limit himself to eating from a food flask but should go out there where CEOs meet and have lunch and dine there.
That was the end of office lunch talk.

Imagine if we had allowed office talk control our marriage I would be an angry wife cooking office lunch for him 20 years later and hating it.
I would rather keep myself perfumed and scented doing the chores that gives pleasure and reward

I am sure the talk went on and on. They started asking my husband why is it that his wife was not cooking lunch for him as the wife of his colleague was doing? (Na we come be bad girls/bad wife)

So on this day in 1998 my husband had a talk with me that his colleagues where disturbing him that I was not cooking lunch for him. I simply said to my husband tell them i don't have a child to be cooking school lunch for and I expect my husband to be going for power lunches!

Whatever you do, make your own rules in your own marriage. Don't play by anyone's rules. Invent your own rules. You are the one staying with each other

The newly married colleague of my husband started coming to office with lunch lovingly prepared by his new bride while my husband was still going to restaurant like he did before.
Office people started talking!!!

So my husband would tell me about this his colleague that his wife was cooking for. I was always like that's so childish and an inconvenience. We would gist and laugh not knowing the small talks at the office was getting to him