Relationships & Money (my experience) THREAD:

When I started my business @LavishC_events in 2015, I specialized in Wedding Planning. I planned Alot of weddings and this is the trauma I went through.....

We first meet with couples to get an idea of what they want and their vision for the wedding. I watched countless brides go all out telling me what they want, share pics with me and even clips. There was a time when all brides wanted the "Paris In love" Theme from the Tyler Perry

...movie. and understand that "white weddings" cost a fortune. I'd see the sparkle in the bride's eye as she explains how she wants her day to be. After the meeting we say our goodbyes with great energy & excitement. The bride is o excited because Michelle understands the vision.

About a few hours from the meeting (usually late afternoons) I get a call for the groom. Asking if we can please chat about the wedding. Thinking that something is wrong, I leave the living room and move to a quiet place to hear the groom out.

The groom Begs me to please replace everything that the bride wants with the cheaper ones. I obviously inform the groom that I have a reputation to uphold and cannot risk my work looking tacky so I can't assist. He then begs me to atleast lowkew discourage the bride....

On all the expensive items. He opens up and tells me that he doesn't have any money at all to give his Queen this dream she wants and he doesn't want to disappoint her. I obviously refuse to do what he has asked me to but try to guide them towards more affordable options...

We (bridal couple and myself) meet again to chat about the mood board and go through my possible designs and a mindmap for the wedding. I watch the bride go all out again as the hubby to be is cringing thinking how the heck he's going to get all this money.

Now over 80% of these situations end up with the groom getting a loan to pay for everything that the bride wants and get himself in debt as he starts his life with the Queen of his castle.

It was scary to realise how people aren't open about their finances in relationships. How some men sell their queens this dream of financial stability when he is barely scrapping through.

Women, please be curious about your partner's finances. Especially if you are engaged and he wants to get married. @ImcocoMash talks alot about this and y'all need to pay attention. It's the worst to plan a wedding of a couple you know are starting off the wrong foot.

Alot of these marriages end up not lasting because the going gets tough in a few months. There is no need to put up a facade for someone you're planning to spend the rest of your life. I took this as a lesson in my life.

Be Wise and stay in your Lane.

Thank you