You are broken because of your childhood. You push away good people because you aren't used to authentic emotion. You don't listen to others when it comes to different opinions because your OWN opinions were invalidated in your household. You're hurting. Now what? What's next?
To address what's next, we have to thoroughly uproot the past to direct a concise path towards healing & living life the way the REAL you deserves.
Let's find REAL the you. That starts now.
When faced with situations in our lives that brings us back to how we were raised, we either respond with denial or suppression (for those who haven’t healed yet) . We play the facade of being okay, or “going with the flow”, or even just dismissing it altogether. It’s what we do.
The biggest thing I see in this generation is that we as a people no longer try to understand the “why” behind what people “do”. We either just believe them when they say “I’ve always been this way” or my favorite, “That’s just the way I am”

Is it really though? Forreal?
Let’s go back to your childhood. You were a dreamer. You had goals & aspirations that exceeded the roof! You had different thoughts & things you wanted to do & thrive for.

Until,

You spoke about those dreams to someone who swatted the precious curiosity in your heart to dream.
You were consistently invalidated in the same place you laid your head down at night. When you were encouraged by society to dream big-you were living a nightmare. Silenced by the people who created your being. It’s heartbreaking to deal with. After while, you start to change.
Your goals are high, but they are practical & pleasing to the ones who raised you. Your burning desire to truly express your opinions & thoughts to your parent(s) was overshadowed by the looming reminder that you never had the platform to truly express yourself to begin with.
You grown now, out the house. College even. Here you are-trying to find love because who wants to be lonely, right? You find someone. You guys are pretty chill for about 2 weeks & you think you have a good one.

Until conflict shows up.
Due to the fact you were always invalidated with your ideas & opinion on things, you are not capable of withstanding someone else’s opinion differing yours. Which you in-turn, shutdown. Therefore pushing your s/o away because conflict resolution was something YOU weren’t taught.
Sound familiar to anyone?
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