Thread by @hedwyg, Hey #neisvoid peeps -- we talk about how difficult it can be [...]

hedwyg (Heather R)

hedwyg

Hey #neisvoid peeps -- we talk about how difficult it can be to get help or support, especially in the face of "Let me know how I can help."

So let& #39;s have a thread of all the things a supporter could say that are better than "Anything I can do to help?"

#ChronicHelp

Bad: Let me know how I can help.
Better: If you have time tomorrow, I could come over and vacuum for you.

#neisvoid
#ChronicHelp

Bad: I could bring you a meal sometime.
Better: Do you have plans this weekend? Why don& #39;t I bring over something to eat, and we can watch a movie together.

#neisvoid
#ChronicHelp

Better: It must be hard to really get the bathtub clean. Want me to give it a quick scrub for you?

#neisvoid
#ChronicHelp

Better: Hey, I know people want to help, but they don& #39;t know how. Could I help you manage that? We can talk about the things that are hardest for you, and I& #39;ll try to find someone to take those off your hands.

#neisvoid
#ChronicHelp

Some of this is like "SMART" objectives. Be specific. Pay attention to what your friend or family member struggles with. Don& #39;t be afraid to ask them.

And if you can combine support with spending time together--laundry is great for this--that& #39;s even better.

#ChronicHelp

Bad: Anything I can do to help?
Good: Sounds like (your condition) makes it tough to drive sometimes. Are you able to get to your appointments okay? Can you call me if you need a driver?

Good: I& #39;m running out to (Store) later today. Can I pick you up anything while I& #39;m there?

#ChronicHelp
#neisvoid

I know you haven& #39;t gotten out of the house for a while. Want to just go for a car ride with me? We can see your favorite park, .....

#ChronicHelp

I know you& #39;ve been anxious about that doctor appointment. Would it be helpful to have someone come with you?

#ChronicHelp #neisvoid

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