(1/5) Here& #39;s just a thought: if someone you know is struggling, resist the impulse to say "if you need anything, feel free to call me 24/7, even in the middle of the night."

When people are at their lowest, they usually don& #39;t want the additional guilt of feeling like a "burden".

(2/5) Many of you have probably had some dark days. Many of you have probably had REALLY dark days. But I bet very few of you have taken up someone& #39;s offer of "if you need anything, reach out, any time, 24/7" - probably because you didn& #39;t want to inconvenience them. So, try this:

(3/5) If someone is going through a really bad time, I don& #39;t say "hey if you want to talk, call me any time, 24/7".

I say "Hey, I& #39;m going to check in every day / every couple days. Even just a quick message, just to check in. Is that okay with you? Is it alright if I do that?"

(4/5) This way, the person who is struggling doesn& #39;t have to do anything. They don& #39;t even have to respond if they don& #39;t want. But they have the option, and they have the control, and they know someone will give them an opportunity to talk - about anything, about nothing.

(5/5) And it doesn& #39;t have to be "talking". Are you a good cook? Say "I& #39;d like to drop off a couple of meals this week, is that okay?", or if you& #39;re a good landscaper, "I& #39;m going to mow your grass on Thursday, is that okay?".

Just some thoughts.

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