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I decided I should make it clear that I don& #39;t think the fact that I take unsolicited advice badly is a character flaw.
It& #39;s not a me problem.
It& #39;s an everyone else problem.
I don& #39;t intend to get better at taking unsolicited advice.
It& #39;s not a me problem.
It& #39;s an everyone else problem.
I don& #39;t intend to get better at taking unsolicited advice.
Unsolicited advice is a minefield for me to try to navigate.
It automatically puts me on edge.
90% of the time it& #39;s entirely unhelpful.
Trying to decide how to handle it without hurting someone& #39;s feelings is exhausting.
Which makes me even more resentful.
It automatically puts me on edge.
90% of the time it& #39;s entirely unhelpful.
Trying to decide how to handle it without hurting someone& #39;s feelings is exhausting.
Which makes me even more resentful.
To me, it does make a (small) difference if people make it clear it& #39;s not going to bother them if their advice is ignored, disregarded, whatever (e.g. "feel free to ignore").
That says to me they& #39;re truly sharing because they hope it might help and not because they want to win.
That says to me they& #39;re truly sharing because they hope it might help and not because they want to win.
As a Disabled person, I have received far more than my fair share of unsolicited advice in my life.
And I know a lot of it gets shared because people want to be right.
Which I understand because I& #39;m also someone who wants to be right.
But that& #39;s not how you help.
And I know a lot of it gets shared because people want to be right.
Which I understand because I& #39;m also someone who wants to be right.
But that& #39;s not how you help.
If you get upset when people don& #39;t take your unsolicited advice, that& #39;s a sign you might not actually be trying to help.
This whole thread is me subtweeting my paternal grandma, ngl.
